Admittedly, there are more than a few women who are the meek one in their respective relationships, too. Same dynamic applies, regardless of gender.

It's scary to be the one being coaxed into sexual wilderness, especially if there's a lack of experience in that realm. I would recommend talking a lot first in an intimate moment when there is no pressure to act. This would be great stuff for that afterglow pillow talk phase of the evening. Make sure you're all intertwined and plant nose kisses in between sentences and talk about the things that make you tingle. Maybe starting off with something neither person has experienced will help balance things out during the warm-up phase of exploration.

You should have a ground rule. You only need one. Neither partner should ever have to fear ridicule or judgement based on a fantasy. If you cannot hear that your partner loves to kiss feet or enjoys wearing silky panties under his golf pants, don't ask. It's entirely possible that you're incompatible sexually, but being different doesn't necessarily mean being incompatible. Being willing and able to indulge each other's sexual idiosyncrasies (within mutually safe--emotionally and physically--boundaries) will create an environment of lovingness, playfulness and trust that will spill over into other areas of your relationship and daily lives.

Above all, we must be willing to laugh, with each other and at ourselves. Start small. Dig deep. We all have in us a curious, tender being. Feeling safe and loved is the absolute best feathering we can do to our nest in order to "hatch" ourselves into living and loving fully.

Love,
Sophie